Recently, a book named, “A Complaint-Free World,” was recommended to me. The book is written by an American minister. He proposes using a purple bracelet to help us change the bad habit of “complaining”: Wear the purple bracelet on either wrist at the very beginning of the day; when we catch ourselves complaining, gossiping or criticizing, move the bracelet to the other wrist and begin whatever we were doing, again; if we hear someone else who is wearing a bracelet complain, we can point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other wrist, but we must move our bracelet first because we are complaining about their complaining; while trying habituate ourselves to the bracelet, we may need many months to reach the goal of 21 consecutive days of not complaining. On average, it takes four to eight months to accomplish the task.
We often hear people around say, " I really regret…or I would have been better doing this a different way right from the beginning… or If it wasn’t for this, I could have…" It is so easy for people to spend a lot of time regretting past events in their lives.
A survey was done by a Belgian magazine, asking the question, "What do you regret most? "; the questionnaires were sent only to people over 60 years old. The results showed that 72% of the respondents regretted that they hadn’t worked harder when they were young; 67% of them felt that they had chosen the wrong job; 58% of them that they hadn’t paid enough attention to physical exercise; 47% of them that their filial piety had been less than it could have been; 41% of them that they had chosen the wrong partner to live with; and 32% of them that their lives were dull. Eleven percent of these seniors regretted that they hadn’t made a lot of money…From this survey we can see that, generally, most people regret that they hadn’t made the necessary effort to get what they wanted, or to be whom they wanted to be.